It occurred to me today:
As a casual observer of Life (meaning those moments when I am not self-absorbed and actually pay attention), that,
Self-indulgence does not only mean ‘excessive or unrestrained gratification of one’s own appetites, desires, or whims (thanks Merriam-Webster), but it also means unrestrained gratification of The Negative.
You know, The Pity Party, the old Poor Me, Paralyzed by Fear, kind of self-indulgence.
It occurs to me that All types of self indulgence induce some kind of Paralysis, restricting us from truly living life, because it narrows our Scope of Possibility.
Of course it is all Negative because it is all Extreme.
It occurs to me Moderation is The Key. A rather tiresome thought oft repeated. Hmm well now I have something else to consider.
Oh! And M-W notes that the first known use of the word was in 1636. See? Now that is an takeaway!
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Still working on it, self-care that is, at my vast age. I think I’m getting there at last. Good post.
Thank you JB just getting back to the blogging world
Moderation tempered with moments of Joy and Sorrow. Ahh Life!
Ah yes Wandering Road Warrior, sweet life/
Generations of women not participating in self-care. It stops here!
Absolutely Darlene!
Good post
Thank you LA!
I’m still learning about self-care. )I also learned that someone who is the eternal victim, chip-on-his-shoulder– is extremely manipulative and it’s a lifelong method of getting everyone to pity him and excuse his horrible behavior.)
Nice to see you! Yes, some lessons are painful, and the journey to self-care takes time, but you are amazing!