This modern term for Best Friends Forever is not one of my favorites. First of all it is so commonly used one gets a little weary from hearing it so much. Secondly it smacks a bit of desperation as though the declaration itself will make it true. At least that is how it seems. I must concede though that it is said to denote sincerity and a promise – sincere declaration.
In days gone by the term best friend, dear friend, soul mate, may have been used.
*Someone may be your best friend, but you may not be theirs and that is okay. Unlike some commitments there is no reciprocation necessary.
*You can have more than one best friend I think which decries the use of the word best, but there it is. In that case I guess the term would be ‘one of my best friends’.
*A best friend is someone you respect.
*A best friend is someone who can see the worst of you knows your darkest side and still love you and accept you.
*A best friend supports you even when you make stupid decisions.
*A best friend comforts you when the consequences of said stupid decision comes to roost and never, well almost never, says ‘I told you so”
*Distance has no effect on best friend status. The world is a much smaller place now and thanks to Skype and other media contact is not far away.
*Long periods of time can pass but when the connection is made it is as if no time has passed at all.
When I met my best friend eighteen years ago we had engaged initially in a social conversation. During that conversation I clearly heard the words in my mind; I want this girl in my life. And she has been. She travels the world. I do not. She has a gypsy nature, I do not. She is adventurous, I am not. Lest this seem like a lot of ‘nots’, it is in truth of little consequence. She is more thoughtful than I, and stronger and kinder. Perhaps that is our link. She is the better person I strive to be.
I have no idea what makes a soul connection exist. It just does. It cannot be made or constructed, or planned. It is something that exists or it does not. Gender has no influence. It is beyond our ken and a gift, that if we accept it, it can only enrich our existence regardless of extraneous factors.
My best friend’s birthday is on Saturday and I celebrate her life and give thanks.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MISSY!
Originally posted on Mirth and Motivation:
“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.” George Bernard Shaw
Motivation Mondays: MISTAKES!
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin
What do mistakes mean to you? If you read last week’s Motivation Monday post, you’d remember that the man with a headache was suffering because he was not only judgmental of others but, he also had his sanctimonious halo tightly screwed to his head. Unless you are like my tight halo wearer, you’ve had your share of mistakes; some of them you might have repeated quite a few times until the lesson and message dug…
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Originally posted on thekitchensgarden:
Yesterday John had the day off so he finished and brought home my Winter present. He does not do Christmas and Birthday presents he makes winter presents. Last year it was a chicken tractor. This year it is a free standing home made hay feeder. I took a photo of a NZ one when I was travelling and he set to and made me one of my own. Isn’t that wonderful.
The idea is that the cow puts her head through the uprights to get the hay and remains in there to chew it so all the falling and trailing hay goes back in the pile. There is limited sideways jostling so the cows get to eat in peace. It works remarkably well. Now when Aunty Del comes back she will not be bullied out of her dinner. Elsie is king of the castle at meal times!
The car feeder is now for…
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Now this is wonderful news! Congrats Miss C!
Originally posted on thekitchensgarden:
The Great News is that I have been asked to speak more than a few words at the Press Publish Conference in Portland, Oregon on March 28th – 2015. I know most of you knew that already but I thought I would make it all official and also tell you a little of what I am going to speak about.
When I first saw the email from Andrea Middleton and Jen Mylo asking me to consider talking to them about coming to a conference with Press Publish – I almost deleted it thinking it was junk mail. ( I am so sorry Andrea! You almost ended up on the cutting room floor!) Have you ever had a delay in your head when you read something and it is so NOT what you expected to read – then there is a blank moment, then a few seconds later you cock your head and look back…
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Originally posted on The Chatter Blog:
I only have one brief thought to share with anyone who needs it today…
I hope someone, in some way, expresses how much they value you today.
If no one does, I hope you express to someone else in some way, how much you value them today.
I have been very blessed in my life to always have a saving grace of some kind. In the form of some person. That when I was in need of finding value-if I couldn’t find it myself-someone always managed to step in and help me see what they saw. I try to pay that forward as best as I can.
I had a friend once tell me she has always known love, been loved, been blessed. And she couldn’t imagine the solitary existence some folks try to survive on. That is a gift.
If you question your value or are just feeling low…
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A perfect post to Robbie Burns!
Originally posted on Peak Perspective:
There is nothing more attractive to me than a big, burly Scotsman dressed in a kilt.
There is nothing more attractive to me than a big, burly Scotsman dressed in a kilt and holding a glass of single malt scotch.
Oops. One more go at this.
There is nothing more attractive to me than a big, burly Scotsman dressed in a kilt, holding a glass of single malt scotch and offering it to ME.
And the great thing about January 25th is that my chances of seeing this attractive vision unfold increases monumentally all because of one charming fellow.
Who happens to be dead.
Nonetheless, Robert Burns is still remembered, admired and hailed around the world. His birthday is celebrated in ways that likely have him wishing he could be there and glad that he is not. It all depends upon what party you end…
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It is always flattering when a post generates a desire by others to share
Originally posted on bridgesburning:
I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member. – Groucho Marx
Types of clubs vary in design, purpose, function, and level of formality. The earliest ones are informal and naturally occur when two or more children engage in routine play. I suppose some psych type person out there will say the earliest club is the one formed between a mother and or father and a newborn.
Some clubs of youth include Boy Scouts, Girl Guides and various other themes and are ‘joined’ by the participating person. In school there are clubs to join or not depending on your wish or desire.
There are other clubs no one wants to join but we find membership when circumstances outside our control force us into them. Stepping into membership is a foreign experience and it takes a bit of time and consideration to figure it out. It isn’t…
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Some mid January inspiration
Originally posted on Eric Tonningsen's "Awakening to Awareness":
“Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
- To be inspired
These were three of the most frequently searched words/terms in 2014, according to Google. Personally, I am encouraged by this news.
Permit me then, if you will, a somewhat disjointed post; one which makes sense to me though it may not be entirely clear to you.
What else might people be searching for beyond these three foci? Could it be around:
- Forcing breaks or sealing cracks?
- Being a puppet or pulling the strings?
- How to act on one’s dreams?
- Swimming with or against tides?
- Being part of a cure or part of an ongoing disease?
- How to be more open to exploring?
- Could it be…
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