Don’t Tell, Replace, Tune Out

I have been trying to listen.  Really listen.  To me.  Trying to solve some things, find answers to questions that niggle, which when used as a verb means to cause slight but persistent annoyance.  Yes I want persistence but not of the annoying kind.

I have mentioned more than once that the greatest wisdom and insight this poor mind has is during those moments when I am almost fully awake in the early morning but have not opened my eyes yet or changed position.  Either of those two seems to be enough to dissapate whatever world shaking news my secret self was about to share with the struggling conscious me.


So this morning something different occurred.  Well a couple of different things.  The first was that when I had a clear detailed dream I made myself question things as they happened.  I remember seeing a primary character in my story or at least something representative of him and then it shifted deeper into the background and layers of walls and blocks one by one slid in front of it.  I questioned, for the first time in this kind of dream ‘why’?  Why, when the answer is so clear would it be muddied by layers that are going to have to be taken off one by one?

The question alone presented the answer.  I was in awe of the depth and complexity of my character, who although not a good person is quickly becoming my favorite.  When he first revealed himself to me it was in layers and I felt like it was a journey of discovery and got so excited that I wanted to portray that immediately.  But of course!  I should not blow his cover, as it were, to you any quicker than he is ready to reveal himself.  That’s the key to the story.  Any story!  I was just so excited at figuring this guy out..what motivated him to do what he did…the journey that made him who he is in the present…I just wanted to blab it all out. HA Go figure.


This is something else that came to me in those few minutes I am starting to call the Wisdom Moments.  (And by the way, I remembered what I needed by refusing to open my eyes until I committed key words to memory, reciting them again and again, as I swear it is like Fort Knox and once I am truly awake the doors slam shut and the gates are lowered.)Somehow it was connected with the dream but the message was ‘Replace’.

You see I have been struggling with a couple of issues I want to change but the thought of perhaps a little discomfort in doing so sort of put me off.  How could I make the change successfully?  Both are habits.  One is that every night I have a drink  of Scotch, or two.  Now the fact is that I believe in the benefits of a daily sip, but I am annoyed that there seems to be an internal clock and click, at six, pour drink.  I fully support imbibing it is just the every day ritual I dislike.  Actually last week I made it a point not to partake and felt pretty good all week.  It wasn’t the discomfort of not having a drink, but that niggle again, you know the persistent annoyance of changing a habit.  And it renders me less creative because then my mind goes into  holiday mode – R&R.

So in the spirit of ‘Replace’ I shall replace that with beer….NO NO…just kidding..a nice cuppa tea like Mom used to make with cream and sugar.  Perhaps I will pick up some 18% cream for that once a day treat.  Now that I can look forward to.

The other issue is so secret I hate to say it but…my grandson thinks I quit smoking a long time ago and the only safe time for me to have one is late at night when he is in bed.  SHHH!  First of all I hate sneaking around.  What am I?  The child here?  Secondly I hate lying to him.  Deceiving him.  So soon as this is posted on goes The Patch.  The shame is not in the smoking, I support those who wish to smoke, the shame for me is in the deceit.  I considered being truthful with him and telling him to get used to it, he’s not the boss of me.. but I think I just don’t care to pursue this particular avenue of self destruction right now.  Not worth my time or money and it actually is interfering in my creativity since I have to pop outside to do the deed.


This advice did not come from within, beyond or anywhere except my email.  Once I woke, wrote down the key words I needed, I checked my stats and emails for all your posts.  Being Gemini this is part of what it said – (and no before you even think to ask I do not plan or live my life according to said scope, but it is amusing) – You need some peace and quiet.  Don’t even pick up a newspaper – try to not even think!  Just tune out and take care of yourself.

Nuts I just get this thinking thing down and now…..well too late for today.  I’ll have to try and not think tomorrow!  Have a wonderful day all!

12 thoughts on “Don’t Tell, Replace, Tune Out”

  1. I share that first-thing-in-the-morning thing. Many good answers have greeted me with the rising sun – in fact when I was younger and worked in a financial situation, I used to wake up with solutions to why things didn’t balance. (Wish some politicians would adopt this habit!)

  2. I hate that feeling when a dream so clear a second ago disappears completely. I like to pay close attention to my dreams, so I can only believe that whatever my subconscious was telling me will return somehow, but I think I’ll try the not moving trick next time.

    Are you a plotter? I ask because I’m not, and peeling back the layers of a character is what happens to me as I write, which is the exciting part for me.

  3. Bless your heart. I’m sorry you feel you have to hide the smoking from your grandson. What would happen if you just admitted it to him? I’m not saying that quitting isn’t a good idea–just that telling could be the thing that liberates you to quit.

    Sorry–I could be wrong. I can only speak for myself. Hugs to you whatever you do and congrats on the HUGE insights you are having!


    1. I enjoy smoking Kathy but since I live with my family I can no longer smoke in the house which has its own irritations LOL. I thought about just telling Caleb because I value honesty but the schools do such a terror job on kids. If he knew I was having a smoke he would be very anxious thinking I was about to drop dead. I am supposed to be here a year helping them and if I move to my own place after could start again but will see.

  4. Oh very good darling. You are making two incredibly hard decisions actually as they are addictions. Albeit the tiniest tale end of an addiction. You will drop kick them magnificently. I don’t smoke anymore but not having a glass of wine when i cook would be a really hard thing for me to give up However, maybe you and I can kick my last of the night drink together! well done Chris. c

    1. Honey wine and cooking are a must. I don’t cook much but would like to get back to it. My sons have learned well and when cooking must drink. I’m not too worried about the smoking as I don’t do it much except when at my sisters. What I really hate is the smell of it. I did quit for a year and a half and could not believe how awful it smells to others so I should be able to kick back on the Febreeze!

  5. You just so fully explained the funny/odd feeling when I try to change something! It’s not that I am so much addicted to the energy drink, it’s the changing of the habit and not opening the energy drink at the same time every day. I had the very same feelings when I changed from energy drink to nothing. Once I went ahead and had iced tea at the same time….it didn’t feel so bad.

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